30 Oct 2007

The Life Styles Respond

The factors which lead to the choice of a partner are correlated with the conflicts which later result during the marriage. The relationship is not merely one of conscious choice and logical conclusions; it is based more profoundly upon the integration of the two personalities. At the instant when two persons decide to marry, they sense [...]

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26 Oct 2007

Living Together the Logic of Social Living

To the psychologist all marital problems present themselves in two aspects. The first is concerned with the individuals involved and their personalities, the second with the technique and methods they use in dealing with each other. It is possible to recognize the reasons for a person’s actions and the nature of his difficulties by understanding [...]

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25 Oct 2007

The Significance of Beauty

Closely related to taste is the significance of beauty.
Artists may look for a sectio aurea to decide objectively what is beautiful, but the average person still judges beauty quite subjectively. Beauty is what we like-whatever we enjoy seeing. Personal taste arbitrates beauty, particularly in regard to sex. Feminine beauty, masculine strength-for strength in a man [...]

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24 Oct 2007

Looking For Perfection

Their attitude is well expressed in the following episodes:
Two men met on the street. “Hello, Bob. What’s the matter with you? Why do you look so down in the mouth?” Bob confessed he had just met the girl he had always been looking for: the perfect woman. He raved about her beauty, charm, intelligence, good-nature [...]

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23 Oct 2007

Training for Love

Early experience of sex excitations, of infatuations, caresses, and passions are very important in our personal pattern of feeling and making love. Human love is very complex and intricate. Sex intercourse is only one part, and even this one portion is not simple and identical in all persons. We learn to love as we learn [...]

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19 Oct 2007

Love Needs Constant Tending

Husband and wife, aware of this, will try to stimulate affection, to earn responsiveness, instead of considering his or her own rights. Too many forget as soon as they are married their capacity to charm and to entice. They believe that the marriage document gives them a right to gratification. And when their expectations do [...]

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18 Oct 2007

How to Find the Right Mate

Failure to choose a mate always results in personal unhappiness, frustration, and self-isolation. Although loneliness is not limited to unmarried persons, remaining single adds disappointment and discomfort.
The puzzling question for many is how to find the right mate or how to know whether a person is a good choice. Unfortunately, there is no formula to [...]

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17 Oct 2007

The Function of Romance

In our days the goals of love are often peculiar. This is attested to by the relatively infrequent attainment of the goal which each individual sets for himself. How many of us actually find what we conceive to be complete happiness in love? How many more have reconciled themselves unwillingly to their disappointment in love? What [...]

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16 Oct 2007

Major Elements of a Satisfactory Marriage

The studies of ordinary workable marriages in middle-class society indicate that many different patterns of marital relations appear to function successfully. There is no one way for two people to relate in order to have a satisfactory marriage, but the following elements appear to be common to the various patterns.
First, the spouses in a workable marriage [...]

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15 Oct 2007

Love as One of the Three Life Tasks

What love means to an individual depends therefore upon how he uses love in regard to his entire life situation. Love is a task which confronts every human being as a part of human society. There is a definite interrelationship between the task of love and the two other life tasks, namely, to work, and [...]

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