The bride and groom may ask you to find a place where people can go and hang out after the wedding. It’s a good idea to have the party organized before the wedding because you won’t have time during or after. If the wedding is at a hotel, then the easiest thing is to pick a room and invite people back. Most people will go home, but those staying over will appreciate having a place to go. Get some things for people to drink, but not just alcohol, because some people will have stopped drinking by this time. You won’t need to get food because most people will have had their fill at the wedding. All I can say is have fun. Your job is over for the night, and if there’s no brunch the next day, you can get to work on the biggest hangover. you can handle.
The Sunday Brunch
Many times there will be a Sunday brunch scheduled for everyone who has traveled to the wedding. This is a great time for the Bride and Groom to meet any guests they didn’t speak with at the wedding reception. This is also a time to see friends and family who will be leaving for their trip home.
Critiquing weddings is a national pastime. This usually occurs on the drive home, but as a Groomsman take extra care to hold off on any comments unless they are complimentary. It’s very common for people to discuss the wedding during the brunch. The brunch is really just an extension of the wedding event, and even though it’s less formal and the deed is done, the Bride and Groom and the family still are entertaining. Remember, you can never assume you know the behindthe-scenes issues that arose and the hundreds of decisions that have been made.
Here are some ideas about how to respond to questions about the wedding:
If asked your opinion about the wedding, try something like: “The wedding was very special. I really liked the part when … ” Bring up a moment during the wedding that you especially liked. It’s a place to start a conversation when talking with a family member.
If asked your opinion about a mistake that occurred at the wedding, answer: “No one’s going to remember that. They’ll remember the day as a whole and that it was wonderful.”
If asked to comment on someone else’s criticism, you’re being set up, and whatever you do, don’t agree with them. I’m not being shallow here.
If the band sucked, everyone knows it, so there’s no need to share it. The Bride, Groom, and parents of the Bride and Groom are very self-conscious about the aspects of the day. People carry a lot of baggage about what they wanted at their wedding, and parents have expectations about what they thought they could provide for their children. Also, parents always wish they could have done more, even if it looks like more than enough to you. This is just one of the laws of nature, so if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it. 