One trend you might come across in your wedding planning is the wedding money tree. This decoration is designed to invite guests to place cash gifts right on the tree. Is it considered tacky or is it ok to have a money tree at your wedding?
Experts are divided on whether or not the tree is a good idea. Some say that it’s perfectly fine to include a tasteful money tree as part of the wedding décor. While some say that it should never be included in a wedding, as it is a breach of etiquette. This is a concept that over the last several years has been growing in popularity.
If you are going to go forward with having one at your wedding, consider this your guide for all things wedding money trees.
1. What is a Money Tree
The money tree is a small tree that you either make or you can buy. This is essentially a tree that allows guests at the wedding to give gifts of money to the happy couple. These can be made usually from either wood or wire and can use pins or ribbon for the guests to secure the money to the tree.
It can be a small evergreen tree if you are marrying in winter or a few branches that you hot glue silk leaves on for the fall. A decorative pot makes it attractive as does a silver or gold bow. You set it out near your gift table or in another less obvious spot.
Sometimes small cards along with pens will be supplied to allow guests to write personal notes from them to the couple. It is a good idea that if you are going to use one of these trees, that you use small envelopes so that guests can give their gift with a little more discretion.
2. Should you Have a Money Tree at Your Wedding?
Gather the facts and then decide for yourself whether a wedding tree makes sense for you and your family. The whole purpose of the wedding tree is to provide a place for guests who want to give cash as wedding gifts. It’s supposed to be light-hearted and festive, and if done correctly, it can be appropriate.
However, consider the fact that many guests could consider it in poor taste to blatantly ask for money. Even though you might think it’s perfectly fine, and would never directly ask for money, some guests might see it in a different light.
Some of the reasons that you may decide to go with this form of gift are as follows.
• You are having a destination wedding and do not want to haul bulky gifts. The use of wedding shower trees is generally more acceptable as guests will want to go this path as opposed to bringing gifts to the actual wedding.
• Themed Trees are a great idea. Maybe you are looking to have a baby or buy a new home. This would be an acceptable reason to have a tree.
• Cultural reasons are one of the common things that a person will decide to go with a money tree. If this has been part of a persons culture or heritage, then they will generally want to make sure that they use this as a way to celebrate their heritage.
3. Where to Get a Money Tree for Sale
Finding these is not as easy as you might expect. There are tons of ideas for these on the internet all the time. Amazon is great source to find one if you're determined to use one at your wedding.
If you are a creative type of person, you may want to consider making the money tree yourself. Whatever option you go with, pick on that correlates with your theme whether it is a wire tree, one with hanging decorations, or an acrylic or LED tree.
4.Where to Place the Money Tree
One way to make sure your money tree does not scream out a request for money is to do it quietly and place it at the gift table. When you include a money tree at the gift table, you’re providing a quiet suggestion. Guests can either drop their gifts off at the table, or they can choose to clip some money to the tree.
This provides an easy way for guests to attach their money and also any cards they might want to include. A guest giving a card with cash inside may feel more comfortable leaving the whole card rather than just the dollar bills.
You can also include a decorated bird cage, if you like, so guests can drop their cards that include checks or money inside it.
Try and place the tree in an area that can easily be accessed for your guests and yet still secure enough to make sure someone can keep an eye out on the tree. You will want to make it a point that someone is watching the tree and that it is discreetly being emptied on a regular basis into somewhere safe.
5. Other Tips
Be sure that you make it clear that the tree idea is optional for your guests as sometimes they may not feel comfortable giving money and will prefer an actual gift instead. Have fun with your tree! The money tree will feel more sentimental if it is unique to you and your spouse.
Consider who your guests are and if this is acceptable for your wedding reception.Those who say the money tree is tacky include guests to certain cultures. It is not proper in certain cultures to make a show of asking for money. Other cultures see it as a fun way to wish the new couple well. Check out the family histories of both sides before deciding if a tree is appropriate.
If you do decide to include a wedding money tree, include a poem or short note with the tree. Make it an option and not a requirement that guests leave cash. To show guests how the tree works, stick a few dollar bills on it in advance.
Keep your tree in line with your décor so that blends in and also serves its purpose. And have fun with your tree! The money tree will feel more sentimental if it is unique to you and your spouse.
Michelle has been with Wedding Favors Unlimited for nearly 20 years. Starting out in Customer Service, she’s interacted with thousands of Brides helping them navigate every detail imaginable around a wedding. She became a full-time writer for us because she realized he kept getting the same questions over and over and wanted to share them with everyone. Feel free to ask Michelle a question below!